What NOT to Expect From Skilled Nursing Homes

If you are placing a family member in a skilled nursing home, don’t expect your loved one to get personalized one-on-one care.  It just doesn’t work that way. Buzzers ring and residents wait, sometimes for long periods  of time. The administrators and staff will tell you all your loved one’s needs will be taken care…

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How Senior Independent Living Communities Discriminate

Independent communities are a great option for seniors, if you can get accepted. These communities offer tiered living situations which consist of independent living, assisted living and nursing home care.  The idea is as one’s health begins to changes and more support is required, services are available to accommodate. With these communities, a person has…

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Living Long Doesn’t Mean Living Well

I recently read one of the best articles on aging and healthcare in our soceity by Micheal Wolff in The New Yorker.  The name of the article is “A Life Worth Ending”.  http://nymag.com/news/features/parent-health-care-2012-5/ .  It is the story of caring for an aging parent and how the dying process was drawn out without any input from family.…

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One Nursing Home’s Alternative To Anti-Psychotic Medications.

The Boston Globe, part two in the series on the use of anti-psychotics in nursing homes, offers a look at  alternatives.  The article focuses on a nursing home, The Life Care Center of Nashoba Valley and how they do not have anyone on these medications for behavioral issues.  According to the data released by the…

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Is the Nursing Home Model The Best Option For The Future?

I often find myself wondering, while visiting a nursing home, how our healthcare system for the elderly ended up this way.  I have become very good at ignoring the smells, sounds, cries and staff’s freguent insensitivities and focusing on my client.  I also have to help  the family with the emotional, physical, psychological and financial…

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Eulogy To Rose

Rose died yesterday.  She was 89 years old and lived in a nursing home.  Rose was a very proper Irish lady, who always had her make up perfect and her hair (wig) just right.  She really didn’t want any visitors until her face was on in the morning.  She loved to talk and the nursing…

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Tips On Speaking To Parents About Moving To Assisted Living or Nursing Home

It is never easy discussing with a parent moving from their home to assisted living or a nursing home.  As an adult, watching parents decline can be stressful and cause concern for safety.  It may become clear that the parents need to be moved to a safer environment.  However, this is not always as clear…

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Elder Parent To Adult Child: I Am Not Ever Moving From My Home

I recently found myself in the middle of a what was supposed to be a discussion between parents and adult children about increasing services in the home or moving to an assisted living. Discussion is defined as, “ the action or process of talking about something typically in order to reach a decision or to…

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